some time ago,

"the first generation of only-child parents aged from 60 to 70"

rushed to the hot search.

according to the data of the Seventh National Census, as of November 1, 2020, the number of people over 65 in China was 190 million, accounting for 13.5% of the total population.

with the first batch of "post-80s" gradually entering the age of 40, the parents of the first generation of only children have gradually entered the ranks of low-and middle-aged people aged 60-70.

this means that the problem of parents' providing for the aged faced by the only child is becoming more and more serious.

I have heard a sentence:

"the current situation of only children is that they dare not be poor, get sick, marry far away, or even dare to die."

because there are families behind them, elderly parents and young children, waiting for them to take care of and take good care of them.

the child is not yet an adult, but the parents are getting old.

this kind of old and down have small responsibilities and pressure, can not escape, can not get rid of, can only bear silently, digest alone.

however, no matter how strong and independent a person is, there will be times when he is powerless and unable to make it.

but for only children, even if they collapse again, no matter how difficult they are, they can only clench their teeth.

just because parents, and their parents, are the only ones they can count on.

and this is not the plight of one person, but the plight of a huge group of people.

from 1980 to 2016, 176 million only children were born in China.

it is estimated that the number of only children may reach nearly 200 million in 2021.

in the public impression, the only child is a happy generation.

they grew up slowly under the infinite favor of their parents, grandparents and grandparents.

but behind the infinite doting, it also means heavy responsibility.

especially when your parents get older and have more diseases, and they can only rely on you.

I remember seeing a picture called "only child".

the man in the picture is in the middle of his parents' hospital bed, with his father on the right and his mother on the left.

the viewer is very sad.

and this kind of helplessness and helplessness is more the personal feeling of the only child.

but when they grow up, the pressure they bear and the difficulties they face are often beyond our imagination.

"now I really want to find a place to cry and vent my pressure."

the man in the video said so.

Kong Xu, born in 1987, is the only child in his family. 2019 is a particularly sad year for him.

because, not long after the New year, my mother was hospitalized, my mother's condition improved a little, and my mother-in-law was hospitalized again.

immediately followed, a phone call informed him that his father-in-law had passed away.

A week later, his father became seriously ill and was in critical condition.

he doesn't understand why this happened. when he had an emotional breakdown, he especially wanted to find a place to cry.

because he has no choice but to be strong;

because there is no one behind him, and there are old people waiting for him to take care of in the hospital.

so he could only dry his tears and make a disguise before he went to the ward to see his father.

then put on a smiling face and fed his father a mouthful.

the tiredness of running around every day, coupled with his father's illness, made him extremely stressed and anxious.

but who can I tell about this anxiety, this burning pain in my heart?

he told his relatives that they said you were a man and that you should be strong;

while he was eating, he burst into tears, and people around him advised him not to do this. He was upset when his relatives saw it.

writer Zhang ailing once said:

"

A middle-aged man often feels lonely, because when he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who depend on him, but there is no one he can rely on.

"

is this not the case for only children?

before they can get ready, they have already been pushed forward by life and time.

even if the road is full of frustrations, helplessness and sadness, he can only forge ahead.

because there is really no way out for the only child.

when their parents are sick and need surgery, they don't even have anyone to discuss;

when their parents are ill and need to be taken care of in bed, they do not have people to take turns to replace.

therefore, they can only bear all the difficulties on their own and make themselves look like strong adults.

to deal with chicken feathers in a place of life, and the chaos of life.

see such a story on the Internet:

the blogger's mother was seriously ill. Although she had an operation, she needed to be hospitalized for a period of time.

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the blogger's father, 61, is still strong and has no major illness.

therefore, the responsibility of taking care of my mother in the hospital falls on my father's shoulders.

it's not because the blogger is not filial, but because her work is out of town, and because of the epidemic, she doesn't go home.It's very convenient.

she also thought of giving up her job to stay with her mother for a while.

but reason told her that she could not.

because she still has a mortgage to pay, a child to support, and, of course, her mother's treatment expenses.

losing a job means losing a steady income, a strength to deal with life, illness and accidents.

she dare not do so.

perhaps this is the only child's greatest sorrow: giving up work can't afford to support his parents, and he can't take up a job to accompany his parents.

therefore, she can only learn about her mother's illness and the situation at home over and over the phone and through Wechat.

she said that since her mother fell ill, she was very afraid of receiving a sudden call from home.

fear of the other end of the phone is the news of the deterioration of my mother's condition and the news of the hospital's reminder fee.

but she is powerless and powerless.

some people say that the problem of parents' pension is, in the final analysis, a matter of money.

it makes sense to think about it carefully.

after all, which one doesn't need money for hospitalization, nursing care, nursing home, and so on?

netizens

@ Piao Piao

shared her 78-year-old mother-in-law's bill for ICU because of kidney failure:

from August 1st to August 7th, it cost 117902 yuan;

ICU stayed for 30 days and spent at least 200000 yuan;

the nursing fee is 220 yuan per day, and about 13200 yuan is spent.

sometimes think about it, filial piety is also based on "financial resources".

when there is not enough money to support, once our parents have a major illness, we can only be at a loss, want to cry without tears.

so, I still want to say that at the age when you can make money, try to save as much money as possible.

Don't wait until your parents are sick to regret not making money desperately and save money well.

and the meaning of living hard and making money desperately:

is to give parents, loved ones, a shelter from the rain, a warm harbor.

Zhang Guoxin, deputy to the National people's Congress and president of the Middle School affiliated to Jiangxi normal University, put forward the following suggestions:

establish the operating mechanism of remote withdrawal of pension and remote transfer of medical security, so as to facilitate elderly parents who settle down with their children in different places;

increase the old-age subsidy for only-child families;

set up one-child care leave and so on.

it can be seen that the problem of one-child family providing for the aged has become an important social topic that needs to be solved urgently, and the country is gradually improving the relevant system.

for every only child, we can also do this:

take parents for physical examination regularly

when parents are old, all kinds of diseases will come up.

although we can't avoid the coming of the disease, we can at least deal with it in advance.

regular physical examination, early detection, early prevention and early treatment.

this can not only strangle some major diseases in the cradle, but also give yourself and parents a buffer time so that they will not be at a loss when a serious illness strikes.

keep abreast of parents' condition

We can install a camera for our parents in our hometown. When our parents fall down and get sick, we can also keep abreast of the situation.

or call your parents regularly to ask them how they are doing and if there is anything wrong with them.

of course, the most important thing is to go home often, chat with your parents and do housework.

and this is the most substantial companion.

saving money is the last word

money is the foundation of our life at any time.

find a stable job and save a sum of money regularly, which may become your capital for your parents' retirement in the future.

if you can, develop a part-time income in addition to your regular job.

it's also important to take good care of yourself

for only children, we are the only ones in their parents' world.

and only by taking good care of ourselves can we take better care of our parents.

so, remember to exercise, exercise more, drink more water, be happy, be happy, and have the ability to make your parents happy.

there is a saying that goes like this: "our parents depend on us for the first half of our lives, and we are the only ones for our parents for the second half of our lives."

years are the most ruthless, urging parents to grow old, so old that they can only rely on our care.

and all we have to do is to try our best to protect them and make them happier and more decent in their old age.

, give praise for every child. I wish their parents good health and peace and success in the future.

encourage each other!